Jill is a wife and mother of three from New Jersey. She was diagnosed with relapsing MS in 2005 and decided to open up to her new roles and possibilities.
I was married and had 3 small children when I was diagnosed with relapsing MS. I remember how afraid I was, because I thought I would have to say goodbye to the future I had imagined for me and my family. But then I decided to just rethink my plans for the future, and I said yes to my personal goals.
A few months after my diagnosis, my husband and I decided that I still needed to be myself—a wife, mother, friend, and so much more. We couldn't let MS get in the way. From that moment on, we have found new approaches to our relationship and to parenting.
My husband has been my biggest support partner in this journey. He has done everything he can to help me, especially right after my diagnosis. Sometimes it felt like I was his fourth kid! He and I have adjusted our roles in our family too many times to count. Some days I am too tired to stand at the counter and cook dinner; so my husband learned to cook. Other days, I get dizzy from going up and down the stairs with the laundry basket. So now my husband handles laundry days. His help is crucial. I don't think my husband ever envisioned becoming the laundry expert at our house, but he sure has made it work!
My journey with MS has also made my kids more compassionate and caring individuals—something positive I never expected to come out of my diagnosis. For example, my daughter decided to pursue a career in special education. And my son goes grocery shopping for our family because he is aware of how tiring that task is for me each week.
With the help of my family and friends, I'm now able to say yes to being the person that I want to be. On top of that, I am able to recognize that despite the challenges, there are also unexpected blessings this diagnosis has added to my life.
Jill K. is a paid spokesperson for Biogen and has experience taking Tecfidera® (dimethyl fumarate). She may or may not be currently on TECFIDERA.